Growing up my grandmother always drilled into my head that hair is beauty especially, long hair. I had the nightly scalp massage and comb through to ensure that my hair was healthy and well groomed.
Hair was always a topic of conversation in my household. When I was about to start high-school, I took it upon myself to give myself a fresh look and so I went and took my dad’s heavy-duty, upholstery scissors and chopped off about twelve inches. Naturally, my funeral followed shortly after…
After that I never really cut it. I grew it all through high school and well into my working life. That was when I probably started experimenting. Hair colors, ombres, you name it, it was nice to have an option to manipulate my hair and I always ended up feeling very different too. But I won’t go into that, yall will laugh at me… Lmaoooo
Hair is so deeply webbed into our lives that we sometimes don’t really recognize. I’m a compulsive hair flipper, lol… I admit! I like running my fingers through my hair because, it’s soft and silky. And I love when people touch it too…with permission that is.
I once dated a guy that loved playing with hair. I liked it to. But out of the few relationships I’ve had, this guy really crept up to my soul. He was one of those guys who knew how to appreciate people’s individual beauty and I swear I used to be high off of his vibes. Anyways, as with all relationships with charmers, it ended really badly.
I think it was also one of those really corrupt moments in my life where I started to doubt myself and question my decisions. I also couldn’t tolerate seeing my hair in the mirror. The next day I paid a visit to my hairdresser and I cut it all off…that was the shortest my hair had ever been in my life. (In line with my ear.. )
Did it feel good? Hell yes! I loved how free and liberated it made me feel.
Would I cut my hair off again because of an impression of some guy? Hell noooo…. Yuh girl wiser than that now. Lol
About a year after, I saw Sanaa Lathan in a movie where she shaved her whole head (Can’t remember the name) but that movie spoke to me. I felt it with every inch of my heart.
Hair is physical… It adorns our bodies, shapes our faces, bestows identity etc
Hair is emotional and psychological – it helps create moods, boost confidence and sometimes makes us feel tainted.
Hair is spiritual. It makes us feel complete…it stays with us in our journey…
Hair is all that and more.